I forgot about one really cute event, but I was reminded of it this morning. Let me start with the first instance. A few nights ago, I was going to bed. Even before I got preganant, I would ask my husband to come in and say goodnight to me. It reminded me of the way my dad used to tuck me in at night. I don't get the complete mummifying treatment that dad used to give (he would literally tuck the sheets in all around me so that I was cocooned or mummified in the sheets), but a kiss goodnight still makes me feel loved. Since B stays up so much later than I do, we usually don't get to fall asleep while snuggling, so this is a fair substitute. Sometimes, I even get a snuggle for a few minutes. It's a nice time together.
Anyway, now that I have a big belly, I get a lot more snuggles. I'm also immensely fluffier and more cuddly with the padding so it makes it extra nice. So B came to say goodnight and gave me a bonus snuggle. We usually spoon but this time we put the belly between us and hugged. That way my belly and the baby was sandwiched between us and pressing gently against his tummy. Well, DJ started to move about, and gave a kick, nudge, bump as he does more frequently now. I let out a bit of a yelp, which is quite common for me. Then B said, "Oh, I felt that." It was so neat. We could simultaneously share the experience.
Last night, B had accidentally taken a nap after a big dinner and realizing he wasn't coming out of the bedroom, I went in and went to sleep. I've been having some serious insomnia lately and the opportunity to fall asleep in mid-cuddle is too good to resist. (We're very snuggly.) He woke up after a little while longer and tooled around on the computer, as usual. I kept sleeping. So this morning, very early, B was coming to bed and I was sleeping very lightly, having already had plenty. I got up to go to the bathroom after he was done brushing his teeth and prepping for bed. We met on the way between going in opposite directions and I hugged him. He was restless because naps throw off his internal clock even more than its usual twisted nature.
Between the movement and the talking, DJ woke up and proceeded to start dancing. Of course I don't know if he was dancing, but with all the kicking and bumping and weird grabby feelings, I suppose that's a good estimate of what he was doing. After my bathroom trip, I came back and cuddled B while we talked a bit. Throughout our conversation, DJ made his presence known. B felt him move against him several times. After a little while, B slid down to hold the belly and talk to the baby. He rubbed the belly and spoke softly and DJ stopped moving almost entirely. Apparently, B felt some movements that I didn't, which doesn't entirely surprise me. But for the most part, he stopped. As soon as B moved away, DJ got busy kicking.
I think B was kind of disappointed that DJ wouldn't move while he was holding the belly. I have a crackpot theory as to why this is happening. I find B's voice very soothing and calming, particularly when he's speaking quietly and in a snuggly mood. It would seem that DJ's perception, what he can get from his position at this point anyway, would be molded by my reactions. Even if he can't hear my thoughts or voice, there are unconscious physical responses that he can't help but pick up on. My body is his universe and my heart rate is intrinsically connected to that universe. He's going to pick up on the physical responses to my emotions faster than my mind will perceive that my feelings have changed. Who knows, maybe he will come out and want to be soothed by Daddy when he's hurt and upset, if only because I am and have been since the beginning of his life so calmed and soothed. Interesting theory, don't you think?
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